Happy New Years resolution time!!! Is it just me or have they become a cliche in our culture?? We joke that by January 3rd we’ve “fallen off the wagon” and are back to our old habits; so, we might as well get comfortable in our sweatpants and try again next year.
Well how far has this mindset gotten you? Probably not very far! What if January 1st or “next Monday” is just a mindset and you could begin again any day you wanted to?
When I committed to a healthy lifestyle and gave up yoyo dieting/ deprivation and a sedentary habits, do you know what day it was? It was a random Thursday in May. I gave myself a fresh slate and began a new journey in the middle of the week in the middle of the year.
So if you are a week into 2020 and have already “quit” your diet or exercise regimen. You can still begin again and give yourself a fresh slate. January 1st is just a new day to do something different and level up to become the best version of yourself and chase your goals with a new level of ferocity.
So if you are reading this and you are ready to finally make a goal and see it through, here are three steps I use to make that happen.
- Decide clearly what your goal is and make it SMART.
None of this “I want to feel better.” or “I want to be happy” those may very well be true but in order to make a goal stick your brain needs something specific to work with. When I was a substance abuse counselor, part of my training was to work with my clients on SMART goals. That meant goals that were Specific, Measurable, Attainable,Realistic and have a Timeframe.
So instead of “I want to feel better” I would make a goal-I want to cut out gluten, dairy and sugar for 30 days. This goal gives me something specific to focus on, I can measure it because I know what foods include and do not include dairy/gluten and sugar. And there is a timeframe so my brain can focus on and end point.
- Decide WHY you want to do this.
Changing a habit and committing to a goal is not easy, and when life gets stressful our brains want us to fall back into comfortable routines. This is when we need to remind ourselves a solid WHY we set a goal in the first place. For example, in 2015 when I made my shift my big WHY was that I wanted to show myself how strong I could be and I was capable of sticking to something hard. So when life got stressful and all I wanted to do was veg in my pajamas I remembered that I was strong and strong women don’t need to veg on the couch when they are sad- I got up and knocked out my Insanity workout.
- Trade Judgement for Curiosity
Instead of throwing in the towel and grabbing the nearest box of cookies because you missed a workout or ate something unhealthy. Use it as an opportunity to get curious about what led to you deciding to do something out of sin with your goals. When you can shift your mindset from that of judgement to curiosity- it opens up a whole new world of self discovery so that you can learn what your triggers are and help yourself level up past them!
Changing your habits and committing to a new goal is with out a doubt- hard. I will not sugar coat it and I will not invalidate your struggle-or my own. But what is more hard? Getting up early to exercise? Cooking vegetables instead of ordering take out? Or is it more difficult to wake up every morning with that ache in your stomach that is telling you that you’re capable of so much more and deserve so much better?
Staying stuck is difficult and changing your habits is difficult! You don’t get to escape hard work in this life but you do get to pick which hard work you would like to partake in.
Pick what sets you up for the best, most energetic and exciting life! I challenge you to reestablish your resolution and make today your January 1st!
If you feel like you would love a little bit more support and accountability with your New Years resolutions and goals for better habits-please reach out to me! I would love the opportunity to support you this year and help you reach those goals of yours.